Constructive Principles

1. Try not to turn your pain about the failure of your marriage into anger. It is often easier to be angry and bit back, but it never works.
2. Talk with your mate. Sometimes a little honest talk between husband and wife can turn the situation around. If not you will at least gain some understanding about what happened between you and why.
3. Share your pain with a best friend or a trusted familly member.
4. Try divorce mediation. Even if you're angry or hurt the process of sitting down with your spouse and an impartial person will foster a fair divorce agreement, help with the healing process and protect your children and yourself from perhaps escalating anger.
5. Take practical steps: join a gym or a social club; find people who are single to spend leisure time with.
6. Tell everyone you know that you are (or will be) single again. Ask them if they know anyone they can set you up with.
7. Let yor hurt heart heal. It will do that by expanding your interests and your friendships; by letting a little sunshine into your life again.